Daring Leaders™

According to James Kouzes and Barry Posner in Learning Leadership 2016, there is a leadership shortage in the world. According to the latest World Economic Forum survey, 86% of respondents think that there is a leadership crisis in the world today.

How are leaders made?

The reality is that leaders are not born. Leadership skills are grown and practiced. There are resources, eagerness and capability. Insufficient training is cited as the major factors associated with this lack of leadership.
Simon Sinek has identified three essential traits that leaders must possess to be effective; they must be selfless, empathic, and they must be able to manage with grace under fire. Leaders require a profound awareness of who they are, what they can do and where to ask for support. This is a skillset that requires time, intention to build competencies that take a leader a place of greatest effectiveness. Training leaders with specific knowledge, awareness and specific exercises help to build these competencies more efficiently.
In Daring Leaders™ we will explore topics and exercises where participants will learn, explore and apply research based exercises about core essential values, trust, vulnerability, empathy, courage, boundaries, barriers to personal success and other essential leadership competencies.
We will explore personal, team and leadership effectiveness principles. Working with Now’s the Time, participants will find a safe and challenging place to explore a deep dive into these essential topics.
All sessions include a variety of exercises including personal reflection, group discussion, facilitated discussions, engaging with video presentations, workbook exercises and individual assignments.

Session #1
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Choose an area for exploration.
• Understand how the metaphor of the arena will be used to explore the topics of vulnerability and courage.
• Articulate the support they need to do this work and begin asking for that support from their peers.
• Identify the area where they need to practice self-compassion and self-care by completing permission slips.
• Complete exercises to increase their engagement in the group so they can practice articulating their needs, setting boundaries, reaching out for support, and understanding the needs of others.

Session #2
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Identify the personal values that are the most important in their lives.
• Begin to understand how values clarification is essential to the development of resiliency.
• Identify specific behaviours that align with their values.
• Identify specific people who support their efforts to practice their aspirational values.

Session #3
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Understand how and why trust is built incrementally and over time.
• Complete exercises that help them to identify trusting relationships and the specific behaviours that they view as trust building.

Session #4
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
•Dispel the four myths of vulnerability as discussed in Brené Brown’s theory on vulnerability and courage.
• Demonstrate an understanding of the relationship between vulnerability and courage.
• Identify the two major vulnerability paradoxes that prevent us from practicing vulnerability.
• Define vulnerability.
• Differentiate over-disclosing from mutual vulnerability.
• Begin to understand the importance of connection in the human experience (from neurobiological hardwiring to spiritual needs).
• Identify the myths and ideals that they were taught as children about vulnerability.
• Define vulnerability based on their own personal experiences.
• Identify the physiological experience of vulnerability.

Session #5
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Understand the relationship between empathy and trust.
• Identify and explore the five attributes of empathy based on Theresa Wiseman’s research and Kristin Neff’s research.
• Differentiate empathy from sympathy.
• Differentiate the roles that experience and emotion play in
practicing empathy.
• Identify and explore the three attributes of Kristin Neff’s model of self-compassion.
• Understand why the commitment to practicing empathy includes making mistakes and making multiple attempts at connection.
• Begin practicing empathy within the group.
• Evaluate an assessment of self-conscious affect as measured by the TOSCA-3S.
• Evaluate an assessment of self-compassion.

Session #6
• Understand and begin to utilize the metaphor of the arena to examine the challenges
associated with feeling vulnerable or with engaging in behaviors that lead to uncertainty, risk,
and emotional exposure.
• Utilize a shared language in the group to talk about the various components of the arena.
• Begin to understand the relationships among vulnerability, scarcity, shame, and comparison.
• Begin to understand the relationship between vulnerability and messages, expectations, and
stereotypes involving race, class, orientation, and otherness.
• Begin to understand the relationships among vulnerability, self- compassion, and empathy.
• Recognize how criticism and cynicism impede their willingness to be vulnerable.
• Understand why during the Daring Way™ process they work to identify key stakeholders in their lives, and the messages and expectations of these stakeholders.

Session #7
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Understand the relationship between shame and vulnerability, and why we are the most
susceptible to shame when we are practicing vulnerability and courage.
• Begin to define shame.

Session #8
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Recognize shame as a universal human affect.
• Begin to differentiate shame, guilt, humiliation, and embarrassment.
• Understand the relationships between shame and addiction,
depression, violence, aggression, and behavioural health outcomes.
• Identify childhood, school, employment, current relationship, and
self-talk messages that trigger shame.
• Understand that resilience is understanding shame, walking through it with courage,
compassion, and connection, and cultivating authenticity.
• Begin to understand The Daring Way™ Model and the relationships between scarcity culture
and shame, wholehearted living, and shame resilience.
• Define the construct of wholehearted living.
• Begin to identify the ten guideposts for wholehearted living.

Session #9
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Identify their physiological responses to shame.
• Begin to identify the defensive strategies they use to protect
themselves against feelings of shame and vulnerability.
• Differentiate perfectionism from healthy striving.
• Understand the relationship between shame and perfectionism.
• Comprehend the concept of foreboding joy, and the relationship
between joy and vulnerability.
• Differentiate numbing from comforting.

Session #10
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Understand the concept of shame shields and recognize that it is based on the concept of
“strategies of disconnection”.
• Identify the specific shame shields they use and the context in which they use them.

Session #11
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Identify shame triggers by recognizing both wanted and unwanted identities and their origins.
• Explore the messages, expectations, and stereotypes that fuel their ideal and unwanted perceptions.
• Recognize how they try to manage perceptions and why it is not possible.
• Creatively express their understanding of shame and authenticity.
• Dispel the myth that there are creative people and “not creative” people, and understand that creativity is a function of being human.
• Understand that comparison is the most significant shame trigger when practicing and sharing creativity.

Session #12
Upon completion of this session, participants will be able to meet these objectives:
• Identify the guideposts for wholehearted living.
• Explore opportunities for cultivating a daily practice of authenticity and wholeheartedness.
• Continue to improve empathy skills with group members.
• Practice asking for what they need and talking about how they feel.
• Explore the gaps between their aspirational values and their practiced values.
• Identify what specific behaviours are out of alignment with their aspirational values.
• Practice gratitude in the group and understand the important role of gratitude in the process of wholehearted living.